One quick and simple tip to feel good right now
“Nothing is more important than that you FEEL GOOD” – Abraham-Hicks
Stop for a minute now and take a slow breath in. Hold it for a couple of seconds, then let it out.
Ask yourself, ‘How do I feel right now?’
Connect with the emotion. Is it contentment, self-doubt, frustration, optimism?
Don’t judge. This is purely an opportunity to be the OBSERVER.
When I began to do this every now and then throughout my day, I was able to get a pretty good idea of ‘where’ I was spending my time (emotionally).
Have you noticed that when you are irritable, you day seems to echo that? Everybody seems to be getting on your nerves. You sip your coffee and spill some down your top. You stub your toe as you sit down at your desk.
If you checked in straight after your coffee spill, or your stub-of-the-toe, you’d notice that the emotion would be the same every time: irritability.
The good news is that if this is true, we can change the way our day (and your life) plays out simply by changing the way we feel. And the better we feel, the better it gets.
As a recovering ‘Control Freak’, I absolutely LOVE this idea that we are in control of how we feel. In fact, it is the ONLY thing we are able to control – and that’s a whole other conversation!
So try this out:
Start by connecting with how you feel about whatever it is you’ve got going on – the details of what happened don’t matter, because you really just want to identify how you feel.
For example: “My partner doesn’t help out enough around the house and I feel annoyed and resentful.”
Now, STOP and decide to think better feeling thoughts about this.
Write down in your journal (or think/say) anything that comes into your mind, trying to find something that feels a little better.
TIP: Writing is the best way to start out with this, because you can read what you’ve written and then focus on noticing the feeling you have at the time ie whether what you’re saying feels better or worse.
There’s no right or wrong here – this is about whatever feels better to YOU, so write down absolutely anything and everything while you are getting the hang of this:
He doesn’t appreciate how much effort I put into things around here [feels the same]
He only thinks about himself [feels the same]
He does take out the trash every Friday [feels better]
I have way more on my plate than he does [feels worse]
He takes the kids to school when I am too busy or not feeling well [better]
I’ve seen him fold washing for me without asking [better]
I know he also works hard in his own way at his own job [better]
All the times I’ve asked him to do something around the house he’s done it without question [better]
Maybe I just need to ask more. Maybe he thinks I’d ask if I needed help. He’s not a mind reader. I am feeling so much better now.
With practice you will be so in tune with your feelings that you’ll be able to do this in your head on the run. Feeling good will start to come naturally.
Let me know how you go in the comments below or send me an email at email@example.com.
The above exercise was inspired by Abraham-Hicks.